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Welcome to the forum....
Death, and how to handle it is a difficult one, and one that each individual deals with in diffrent ways.
If you want to write a poem to say goodbye, then go for it, you are free to post it up here, or just read it out to your self. People that are cremated do not have a "grave" but most cremetorions have places that you can go to, and no one will ever stare at you.
Heaven, well for most people this has a different meaning, heaven is what you believe it is. Even though you do not know much about religion, there is nothing to stop you visiting your local church or place of worship to seak advice, you will find a warm welcome.
For the gifts that you have got, well do not throw them away, put them in a box and keep them safe, they will one day be there for you to look at and have fond memories.
For the plans and dreams, only you can decide, and if they were good ones then go for them, but do it for you.
She will always be with you, even if just in spirt.... But talking about things will help. |
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September 3, 2006, 10:47pm |
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My dad died just a couple of weeks ago, and I still don't know how to deal with it. Its an individual thing, and if if feels right to you, then it has to be the right thing, whatever you feel. |
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Hi Ruby, to me I think the best way to do it is by a letter or a poem. I wrote a poem for my mum and sometimes I look up to the stars and I talk to her as if she is still here, and I also tell her that I miss her and that I wish she was still here with me........I hope you are ok Ruby and I hope you find a way to help you through this.....Good Luck my friend and best of luck |
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Hi Ruby, Stephanie is right you know  It helps her to write about it so maybe it works the same for you  Good luck  |
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September 9, 2006, 1:48am |
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September 9, 2006, 1:53am |
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hi, can anyone offer me any advice?? I am a teen.You see my Grandma died a while back and my parents would not let me go to her funeral. She was cremated. I have some questions of which I was wondering whether anyone could help me with:
It's just her ashes were put somewhere in the crematorium....that's all anyone will tell me...but i need to know: WHERE do they put ashes in a crematorium....WHAT surface in the crematorium do they scatter them upon e.g. grass? earth? sand? ,etc....and do they scatter them all in exactly the same place??? WHAT ELSE HAPPENS TO ASHES? PLEASE CAN ANYONE TELL ME as I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO KNOW NOW. If the ashes are buried in a urn......then is this urn ussually buried in a crematorium???????
Also (this is probably going to sound like a VERY strange question) but when Grandma was around she used to buy me lots of videos (especially Disney type ones) and I just wondered is it have insulting to her memory to continue to watch this type of film after her death. Also....she bought me a lot of model horses/toys. What is the right thing to do with these? should I keep them or throw them away?Would it be insulting to her memory if I were to carry on playing with them in the same way...after her death???? CAN ANYONE PLEASE OFFER ME ANY ADVICE |
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September 9, 2006, 2:15am |
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[color=blue] I am a teenager. My Grandma died about 3+ years back now...and I still haven't come to terms with it. I missed practically all of my secondary educationn.(due to circumstances too complicated to explain here).. therefore I also missed Religious Education? I don't understand/get where my Grandma went? Do you know how i can learn about Religion now? Do they run R.E GCSE classes at college? [color=red]Also this might seem an obvious question (but just needed to check) but do they give a good all-round general education in R.E in secondary school(sorry if this seems a stupid question)?? so if I had gone to school would I now understand where she might be? I feel terriible...because i don't get where she is. what does the Bible/Christianity say Heaven is like by the way????I live in England |
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September 9, 2006, 8:52pm |
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Sorry Ruby, I have merged the recent threads that you have made. You have gone ove the problems several times, so please reply to existing threads that you have started, and not start new ones on the same topic.
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September 15, 2006, 10:14pm |
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September 16, 2006, 8:57am |
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Dear Ruby, I think that your beloved Grandma would want you to continue your education in School / College as much as she would want you to keep a good contact to your cousins from Germany and maybe even try to visit them there, if somehow possible for you. Of course you can still continue to watch Disney movies and play with your toys and model horses that your beloved Grandma once gave to you. It's not at all insulting to her memory - rather the opposite of it! Your beloved Grandma would be quite happy if you treasure the things that she gave to you also in the future. It's much more important in life to be honest, than to be diplomatic, but for false reasons, if you just think that you have to pretend something that actually isn't so for real! Please don't lie and simply be honest to your cousins! If they dislike you for telling them the truth as it is, then they are not really good relatives. Good relatives will understand your troubles and problems or at least try to do this. It's never too late to get a good education and all that you might have missed in the past can also be done in the future - if you really want to do it! So never give up on your education and especially not on people and life in general, dear Ruby, because I know that you are a good girl, as you spend a lot of time thinking about all the things that trouble you - as only good people do, because bad people simply don't care about it! It's really sad that you haven't got the chance to say goodbye to your beloved Grandma, but you can still say goodbye to her as she'll always be with you - just look at the stars at night and the one that you can see shimmering the most at first sight is sending you its light as a sign that your beloved Grandma still watches you from above, dear Ruby!  One way to say goodbye to your beloved Grandma can be the way to talk to the stars at night, when you are alone and nobody sees or hears you. You know, friends (and your beloved Grandma too) are like stars - even if they are long gone, their memory will always remain with you, just like the light of an already long gone star, whose light still reaches you for years to come! I hope my words were of some help for you, dear Ruby.  ...and always remember: "The darker the skies, the brighter the stars." |
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Like I said before, I think the best way is to write your feelings down of paper, like a poem or a letter. I'm sure she will be looking down from the stars and watching you. Hope this helps Ruby |
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