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Can I safetly tell college about neglect?
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Hi..first of all I hope nobody mind me posting another problem of which I have. I know I have put a few of my problems in thisforum already...but I just wondered whether I would be allowed justto ask you about's just it isvery important to me..sorry again...and hope no-one minds

i NEED SOME ADVICE. you see i think i have suffered neglect and need some advice. Can you help?

You see when I first started high school I lost two people of whom I was very close of these was my Grandmother who practically raised me.She was the one who took me places, taught me, supported me and basically looked after me. I used to see her almost every day.I can never remember my real mother doing any of this. However I never noticed the lack of support by my parents&..until she died.

I started to refuse to go to school on-and-off for my first two years in high school because of this...i did not want to move on and lapsed into serious depression and somedays i couldn't find the will-power to get up. I'd just lie in bed all day i felt so depressed. But my parents never helped me.they must have seen how depressed I was and yet they did nothing. Isn't this neglect. They knew I had depression and yet they did nothing.

Then i refused to go to school altoghether at the end of this second year as i could no longer cope any more. I ended up having 5 meagre hours of home tuition per week for the last three years which should have ben spent in school. my parents didn't get me any professional help or anything. Isn't this abuse/neglect.

I ended up failing almost all  my GCSEs. the thing is i don't know anything about anything. i haven't been out of the house or seen people for about three years. But my parents won't teach me things such as how to use a bus, how to open a bank account, buy a phone or anything. it's as if they don't care. my mum NEVER offers me any sort or support or advice on anything.Also there have been many many occasions when my mum has been exceptionally emotionally abusive towards me....somestimes she has been so horrible  she'd make me cry...and then tell me to 'shut up' or 'stop moaning'.

So basically
I refused to go to school for my first two school years

I then refused to go altogether at theend of this second year

I  then ended up having 5 measly hours of tuition per week for the last three years that I should have been in school

I then failed almost all my GCSEs
But throughout all this nobody helped me

I will have to go on a very low level of course at college.However I am worried that i am not going to get the support i need at home and might lapse into depression again as a consequnce and be too depressed to get up in the mornings. Because my parents sort of expect me to raise myself!Is this OK or is this neglect. My mums also still not particularly nice to me.

I think I need to tell the college about this lack of support. But i don't want to get my parents in trouble. I want to tell the college so that I can get the emotional support I need and also so that they can understand one of the reasons I felt I couldn't cope with school and therefore couldn't go.  I am 18 years old now.
Can i tell the college without getting my parents in trouble with the police or social services
? Who would the college contact if I were to tell them about the neglect? I DO NOT want to get my parents into trouble
What do you recommend I do? Can I safetly tell the college about the neglect now that I am 18 WITHOUT getting my parents into trouble with anyone? PLEASE CAN ANYONE PROVIDE ME WITH ANY SORT OF AN ANSWER??[/

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If you want honest advice off people, you need to be honest yourself. I don't know what game you are playing, maybe you think it is fun to make other people give up their time for you. I now see you as someone in desperate need of any attention you can get. It is professional clinical help you need not an agony aunts column. Go and see a counsellor.

Why am I appearing to be so heartless to your apparent pronblems, Well in the 3 weeks and numerous posts you have made, you have managed to go from being 16 to now being 18 years of age.

Sorry, but no sympathy or trust from me.

Nigel ?  Oh yeah, he's up there !

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What game are you playing ? is one thing that came up in my mind too Ruby
I must admit that i agree on this with nigel.
If you are playing games with us please stop that and speak to us about positive things too and omd and if you have a problem we will give you advice  

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