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This isn't a problem, there's nothing anyone can do, I'm just ruminating.

I appear to have developed a raging crush on a guy I know who is literally less than half my age. We've only spoken a couple of times, and at least I've not made a fool of myself yet, which is the the main thing. And he started the conversation last time, which is one feather in my cap (Just realised what this smiley is called   ). So he's not actively avoiding me.

I suppose he is quite nice-looking, but that wouldn't be enough on its own to gain my interest. He's very talented in a number of ways, and I think that is what is driving me to want to know more about him.

I know I haven't got a snowball's chance in hell here, and if he's called for, cool, I shall turn the raving hormones onto someone else. I won't be seeing him for a few months because he's going abroad, so that's plenty of time for me to calm down a bit.

I thought these feelings belonged to the beginning of my reproductive life. The blessed M-word must be striking again.

That's all. Just wanted to get some thoughts straight in my head.


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omj - age is just a number; forget that bit.

If you two connect, and share mutual interests; why shouldn't something develop? It may be a relationship; or just a fantastic friendship; but don't let minor things get in the way of letting things happen.

These things usually happen naturally and come to a natural conclusion, either friends/more than friends or maybe nothing - but don't analyse stuff too deeply (I used to do that, (still do sometimes) and it can do your head in!!!)

Maybe whilst he is abroad, he will think about you and come back knowing what he wants - and please, DON'T SAY you don't have a "snowballs chance in hell" ... who knows???

Let it take its' natural course - but don't let it "bother" you!  


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well said Maxine, I concur


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Thanks for your thoughts, folks.  

I very much doubt he will be thinking of me at all - I'm not even sure he knows my name.  
Still, as you say Maxine, concentrate on getting to know the person is the thing, enjoy it as far as it goes.

It wasn't too long ago that I was toying with the idea of a (fairly fit) pensioner that I know. However, he's definitely called for, so that's knocked on the head - but everything's cool. It felt nothing like this though. That's why I blame the hormones.


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snap, I would not worry about the age thing.. Just go with the flow and see what happens, he may be thinking just the same thing.


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Pity he's going away for a few months...  

Do you have any way to keep in touch then?

I have first hand experience that trips abroad can do strange things to a bloke. Don't be too surprised if he's not the same when he comes back.

Mind you, I once omited to tell someone who was about to go away that I had a shine for him and things ended up horribly complicated... (one of those stories that could come under the "strange but true" thread, if there was such a thing). Do you think you could handle telling him how you feel even though he's going away? I rather wish I had with hindsight...  


Onwards and upwards...
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Things are really not that far advanced, believe me. I may hear about him through third parties, but that is all. As I said, we've only spoken a couple of times.

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I have first hand experience that trips abroad can do strange things to a bloke. Don't be too surprised if he's not the same when he comes back.


I shall bear that in mind - equally I suppose I could change....hmmm.


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I very much doubt he will be thinking of me at all - I'm not even sure he knows my name.  
Still, as you say Maxine, concentrate on getting to know the person is the thing, enjoy it as far as it goes.


You never know, maybe he does know your name - or wants to know your name!  

You sound a little like me - quick to negate yourself - and you know, you really should not do that (she says, sounding very "pots and kettles"!!!) because you know (and I know!!) that men DO work in mysterious ways. Alot of men these days also like older women - (god! I watch too much Jeremy Kyle! ), and besides, age is immaterial - if you get on. He may have exactly the same thoughts going through his head - and for all you know, he may be half wishing he wasn't going away.....



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It wasn't too long ago that I was toying with the idea of a (fairly fit) pensioner that I know. However, he's definitely called for, so that's knocked on the head - but everything's cool.


I think it's "good" that you "steer clear" of "taken" blokes; that can cause way too much aggro  



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It felt nothing like this though. That's why I blame the hormones.


Have you considered that it might simply be that you have met someone special???

Blaming hormones is all very well, but you said (and I quote!!!) "It felt nothing like this though".... that is how I began to feel a few weeks after meeting the guy who is now my hubby. So I don't think it's hormones omj, not at all....

I still stand by what I said, don't think too much into it (and I really can give that advice because I'm the worlds' worst at analysing stuff) and see what happens....

Don't beat yourself up, or blame hormones - maybe, just maybe, you've stumbled across someone who could, in time, be very special...

I'm chuffed for you - but please, don't beat yourself up... PM me if you have to; having been an over-analyser most of my life and now have it more under control, I could give you some tips!!!  

Be strong; and happy!  





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I think it's "good" that you "steer clear" of "taken" blokes; that can cause way too much aggro  



I didn't mean to imply that that guy was giving me any encouragement - he's just good company!



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What you should try and do is when you see/speak to him next say that he should send you an email to let you know how he is enjoying his time abroad or some sort of virtual postcard, if he agrees, then you know that he is interested in wanting to be in contact with you.

I think sometimes you need to grab the bull by the horns and go for it as you may regret not doing it.


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It's been suggested - not by me, it was by other people joining in the conversation, that he keeps in touch with our group while he's abroad. So I may hear news from other people, not directly.

I won't see him until he comes back now, unfortunately.  


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Too bad...  


Onwards and upwards...
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It's been suggested - not by me, it was by other people joining in the conversation, that he keeps in touch with our group while he's abroad. So I may hear news from other people, not directly.


But then again, who knows, you might hear from him directly. If he wants to get in touch with you he will - believe me!!!

(eg: many years ago I met a guy in a nightclub; didn't give him my number, but apparently mentioned where I worked. He found out where it was, called me, and sent me flowers.... see it CAN happen!!!)


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I won't see him until he comes back now, unfortunately.  


They say absence makes the heart grow fonder; and it could be TWO hearts growing fonder IYKWIM?  



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Hate to play devils advocate but, could be that he just wants to be friends. And a lovely friendship is worth having. Still, who knows ?? I hope it goes your way OMJ.  



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Maybe not even that - just being sociable. I keep playing Devil's Advocate myself, Elfi.

He sets off today - hope he's OK.


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He sets off today - hope he's OK.



Don't sit wondering - find out!!! Someone will know!!!  


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Would`nt know what to do in the circumstances... but surely you could bring it up in conversation, someone must know how he is.   I really hope it turns out the way you want it to.  



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If you're all part of a group; asking "after" him would be easy, surely?

Don't be defeatist omj; ask; the worst anyone can tell you is they don't know how he is!  


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If I can bring up the subject naturally in conversation, I'll try. Don't want to leave people thinking 'What did she ask THAT for?'


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No, not at all. Hope you think of a way.  



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I can really sympathise omj. One the one hand you don't want to seem a fool, but on the other hand, if he doesn't know how you feel, you may be missing an opportunity... tough one. I hope you find a way to ask after him.  


Onwards and upwards...
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I've been feeling so lovesick today, it's not true - I must come back down to earth, it's making me listen to wall-to-wall Morrissey!

Sorry for making a fuss, folks. But I'm so unused to having my feelings reciprocated, I have to assume they won't be. And I've never developed the radar to know whether blokes are interested or not. I feel such a twit.


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I've been feeling so lovesick today, it's not true


There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with feeling like that, nothing at all....


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Sorry for making a fuss, folks.


YOU'RE NOT!!!!!!  



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But I'm so unused to having my feelings reciprocated, I have to assume they won't be. And I've never developed the radar to know whether blokes are interested or not. I feel such a twit.


omj; stop it I told you before, you're a lovely person, and there is nothing wrong with how you are feeling - but you really shouldn't feel like a twit. We all go through/have been through these kinds of feelings and believe me, they are perfectly normal!!!!!!. Please. Don't beat yourself up over it - in fact, enjoy it - but don't expect anything, then if the "good" happens it'll be fab, and if not you won't be mega disappointed...

Chin Up - and STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN!!!!



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I've been feeling so lovesick today, it's not true - I must come back down to earth, it's making me listen to wall-to-wall Morrissey!

Sorry for making a fuss, folks. But I'm so unused to having my feelings reciprocated, I have to assume they won't be. And I've never developed the radar to know whether blokes are interested or not. I feel such a twit.



That radar does`nt work very well anyway Lol.... where`s Steph with that magic wand.  

I hate it when you feel low, and you`re alone.... but it happens to everyone... dont confuse it with feelings for someone, could just be loneliness, hope it passes soon. Be thinking of you.  



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Wise words, Elfi.

I don't think it's just lonliness, though. But thanks for keeping me on an even keel.


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OMJ.. to feel so much for someone, hurts. And also to not know if, or if not anything will "happen" hurts even more. When I met Sandra, and we had been communicating with each other on-line for a while, well we just got chatting.. Met for a coffee, got on well, and then I asked, maybe we should meet up soon again. Sandra told me that she was busy, and it may be a few weeks.. I thought, that was a sort of polite *no no* but hung on in... and, well what more can I say, I not only met, but also married a very special person...

One day, one day... that right person will be there for you..... I have met you know a few times, and you have really special qualities, things one way or another will be just fine.

Do you remember that first OMD party you can to? how scared you were? Look now at all of the mates and friends that you have, and for those that you have met in real life.


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I don't think it's just lonliness, though.


No and neither do I.... Don't give up omj - all the negativity is irritating me!!!



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OMJ.. to feel so much for someone, hurts. And also to not know if, or if not anything will "happen" hurts even more. When I met Sandra, and we had been communicating with each other on-line for a while, well we just got chatting.. Met for a coffee, got on well, and then I asked, maybe we should meet up soon again. Sandra told me that she was busy, and it may be a few weeks.. I thought, that was a sort of polite *no no* but hung on in... and, well what more can I say, I not only met, but also married a very special person...

One day, one day... that right person will be there for you..... I have met you know a few times, and you have really special qualities, things one way or another will be just fine.

Do you remember that first OMD party you can to? how scared you were? Look now at all of the mates and friends that you have, and for those that you have met in real life.




Fantastic Post Neil!!!! - I couldn't have put it better myself....  




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No and neither do I.... Don't give up omj - all the negativity is irritating me!!!




Not being negative tho, just trying to be helpful.... and realistic. OMJ knows this.  



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Thanks everyone for all the helpful posts and PMs.

I've decided to put the energy into something productive for the time being - no point moping. Going on a health kick too - see another thread.

I am determined that something positive will come of this - whatever it is.


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More power to you. That`s a great outlook to have. Onwards and upwards.  



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OMJ.. to feel so much for someone, hurts. And also to not know if, or if not anything will "happen" hurts even more. When I met Sandra, and we had been communicating with each other on-line for a while, well we just got chatting.. Met for a coffee, got on well, and then I asked, maybe we should meet up soon again. Sandra told me that she was busy, and it may be a few weeks.. I thought, that was a sort of polite *no no* but hung on in... and, well what more can I say, I not only met, but also married a very special person...

One day, one day... that right person will be there for you..... I have met you know a few times, and you have really special qualities, things one way or another will be just fine.

Do you remember that first OMD party you can to? how scared you were? Look now at all of the mates and friends that you have, and for those that you have met in real life.



That first time was a difficult meeting for both of us, I think! While it is true that as a single parent I got precious little free time, I also didn't want to make a fool of myself, omj!  
I think the thing that touched me deeply that day was the way Neil talked about his kids and doing stuff with them. What held me back was the fear of making a mess of things again, especially as this would affect my child as well. But Neil perservered and here we are  

omj if your friend is as shy as I am, it may be down to you to show your feelings. Yes there is a risk of rejection, but if you don't ask, you'll never know...  



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omj if your friend is as shy as I am, it may be down to you to show your feelings. Yes there is a risk of rejection, but if you don't ask, you'll never know...  



Yes! yes! Yes! That's what I've been trying to say all along.

Thinking positive is much better than being negative - and I know cos I do/have done both...  


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Yes! yes! Yes! That's what I've been trying to say all along.

Thinking positive is much better than being negative - and I know cos I do/have done both...  


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Have you heard anything OMJ, I know he`ll be gone for a while longer, but just wondered.



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No, but I might get to see him again a bit sooner than I originally thought - at a function I will also be attending - didn't realise he's be there.  


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No, but I might get to see him again a bit sooner than I originally thought - at a function I will also be attending - didn't realise he's be there.  




So you know what to do when that happens don't you?  


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I've got ideas...


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Well good luck, I hope it all works out the way you want it to.  



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I've got ideas...



Good girl (or woman, whichever you prefer!!)  


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Fingers crossed for you OMJ.  


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I missed him...... 'cos of the sodding TRAFFIC!!!!!! > > >

I set off in good time to see him perform, but hit the weekend roadworks. OK, I knew they were there, but they'd never been that bad before. So by the time I got there and parked, I had to start getting ready for our performance slot. (We went down well  http://www.saltairefestival.co.uk - we seem to have regular fans now!)

I am so gutted!!! I'm obviously not supposed to have a lovelife - what made think I was entitled to one?

Still, - roll on next week - perhaps.


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I missed him...... 'cos of the sodding TRAFFIC!!!!!! > > >


Bummer!!!!

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I set off in good time to see him perform, but hit the weekend roadworks. OK, I knew they were there, but they'd never been that bad before. So by the time I got there and parked, I had to start getting ready for our performance slot. (We went down well  http://www.saltairefestival.co.uk - we seem to have regular fans now!)


That's a busy website.... good though!  


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I am so gutted!!! I'm obviously not supposed to have a lovelife - what made think I was entitled to one?

Still, - roll on next week - perhaps.


STOP TALKING LIKE THAT OMJ

NOW!!!!!

When I met Craig we went through a million hiccups; but look where we are now.

PMA - Positive Mental Attitude.... yeah??  



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STOP TALKING LIKE THAT OMJ [/b]

NOW!!!!!

When I met Craig we went through a million hiccups; but look where we are now.

PMA - Positive Mental Attitude.... yeah??  



Excellent advice Maxine, well said. Are you listening omj?


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Real Bummer OMJ, but there will be a next time.... its just 1 set back.  



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Yeah, I know. It was more the reason that was frustrating than anything. But I made sure I enjoyed myself in spite of it all - though it was hard at times. Had a interesting chat with a bloke opening a shop selling Early Musical instruments (and I don't mean that sort of chat!)


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As the late, great, Gene Pitney once sang..

"True Love Never Runs Smooth
That's What they say
But, True Love is worth all the pain
The heartaches and tears...."



Fantastic words, and pretty true too  


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But it's not True Love - not yet, anyway. Just mad infatuation going nowhere.  


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But it's not True Love - not yet, anyway. Just mad infatuation going nowhere.  


NO, NO, NO, NO, NO

OK, you have to get there, but, believe me, (and I speak here from total personal experience) you can go through alot of heartache and pain to reach true love status... obviously not everyone does, but talking to people over the years, it happens. ALOT. As I said, Craig and I went through alot of stress before we got engaged, and before we married, but, because we worked at it, and knew it was right - it succeeded. This CAN happen to you omj, you deserve love, compassion and caring as much as the next person (more, in fact, you're so nice!!)

Please. Be positive, as you haven't "properly" talked to him - you haven't a clue how me might, or might not, feel......

He could be wishing that you two could have something; and is trying to work out how to achieve this.

ADMIT IT! You don't know, do you!?!   (and yes, I know that adds to the 'stress' of it all)

Please omj, don't write it off before it even gets a chance to start....  


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A long long time ago, well I was about 17, there was a girl that I was just smitten on, but she was way out of my legue, she was classy (not like me) a absolute stunner, any way, I kept, up, sort of being where she was.. and several months on, I was dating her.... anything is possible.


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Ooooooh, that was a long time ago Lol.  



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But it's not True Love - not yet, anyway. Just mad infatuation going nowhere.  



Not yet maybe.  



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But it's not True Love - not yet, anyway. Just mad infatuation going nowhere.  


Nothing wrong with mad infatuation my dear...and it has to go somewhere.  


"Also ich habe eine Ausbildung gemacht als Industriekaufsmann, und wurde nach der Ausbildung...."

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Aww shucks - you're all too kind!  


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So sorry omj that you didn't get to speak to him this time. Maybe he heard you sing? I'd like to hope so.   Either way please don't give up. At least then you will know you gave it your best shot.  
My brother's wife thought that my brother didn't fancy her because he ignored all her advances, but in fact my brother was/is just dippy. They finally got together (via a singing group) and they have been married for over 10 years. It can happen, honestly!  


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He wouldn't have known I was there. He must have heard me sing though - wouldn't know what he thought of it.

Roll on Sunday - perhaps.


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Roll on Sunday - perhaps.


I took the perhaps out omj - BE POSITIVE  



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Even I can't wait for Sunday now!!!  I'm rooting for you gal!


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He didn't come - that's why I said "perhaps".

But someone's going to nab him to make sure he comes next time, to tell us about his trip.


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Very true.... just didnt go the way you planned this time. Thats all  



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Couple more weeks - day after my birthday in fact  


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The Duck has quacked - it will be so.

O Duck - you with the power - flap for me - paddle with your mighty, er, feet/paddle things.
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Time to report back.

Not a bad night. He told us about his trip abroad. Interesting photos. Got to chat with him again. Probably as much as I can hope for at the moment. Have to keep talking, and I'm not good at that at the best of times.

I start out OK, then start feeling self-conscious, and think I'm overplaying my hand, and sort of slink away. So, it felt like a bit of progress was made, but could have been even better. Still doubt my feelings are reciprocated, but I can't do anything about that.

Could have been worse, I suppose.


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Still doubt my feelings are reciprocated, but I can't do anything about that.


You know what I've told you about putting yourself down omj - stop it!!!



Quoted from omj
Could have been worse, I suppose.


See. Keep it up, he may well be having exactly the same thoughts as you, and be equally shy...DON'T GIVE UP!!!  



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Hey, do not even think that for one moment, when you did the interview with Cliff and Myself, you came ove just fine and dandy...

Keep going,...


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omj, I told you about a guy I was interested in a few years ago. I didn't let it show and it turned out he was keen on me too, just wanted a sign from me before he would make a move. There is always hope. Better if you have a direct way of getting in touch. Another time, I asked a friend for the phone number of a guy I liked. I was as nervous as anything, thought of a pretext for phoning him and then he asked me out over the phone...  

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Just keep going. Being honest now, I met my Mrs 10 yrs ago, working together. I always thought she was out of my league - and now look! Be yourself, things can happen.
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Maybe next time you see him you should slip either your email or mobile no saying that it would be great if you could chat a bit more and see what his reaction is.  I think sometimes you need to bit the bullet and go for it.


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So, any updates on this from OMJ?  


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Not seen him for a bit. Still get on OK when I do, though.

So, it's still a case of watching this space.


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Hmm....sort of Grrrr.

He's met a girl in the Far East. Going there in the summer.

To quote Captain Darling in Blackadder - *deep breath* - B*GGER!

HOWEVER - despite this, I don't feel quite ready to throw the towel in yet. Obviously, I hope I'll know the point at which to back off gracefully, and I'd hate to become a stalking nuisance. Still, I can carry on the social chit-chat and continue getting acquainted safely enough, and advertise my advantages, as it were - they're very few, but the major one is, to use some Northern fighting talk, 'I'm o'er 'eer, she's o'er theer!'

That's what I need, a proper Harry Hill-inspired FIIIIIGGGGGHHHHTT!

Am I being totally unprincipled or unrealistic? I don't want to steal him, just offer him a choice. Not the girl's fault either - but I've never wanted to fight for a bloke before.

In the meantime, the local pub are doing Single Nights once a week. Anyone got experience of these things? Are they the sort of doos girls attend on their own (i.e. without a female companion)?


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omj, if you don't now fight for this guy , I, for one, shall be very disappointed in you... it is so clear that you are keen on him, and as you haven't let him know before now, you've 'allowed' someone else to stroll in.

As you say, not her fault but now is perhaps the time for you to make clear your interest in him. Maybe he has let this other girl in cos he thinks you aren't interested... YOU GO GIRL!!!

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As for the singles nights, I've never been, but why not try to find out someone who goes and ask their opinion of what it's like. Even if you turned up just "out of curiosity" you might be pleasantly surprised. On the other hand, someone else could tell me that this final paragraph is pants; as I say, I have no experience, so am just trying to encourage you - but obviously I don't wanna encourage you in a bad direction!  


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I'm totally lousy at the whole "love" thing, but as Maxine points out, you're feelings seem to be quite strong about him.  I wish you well.  

(Re:  Singles night:  If it were me, I wouldn't go alone, just for safety, ya know?)


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just go with the flow omj.. either it happens, or it does not, just go with the flow..

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In the meantime, the local pub are doing Single Nights once a week. Anyone got experience of these things?
Yes, I did do this, when I was single, and to be honest, for what I saw, it just was not right... in fact it kinda freaked me out a bit.

There are some good, and decent dateing sites that you should look at, and not all grim and desperate places, this is how I met Sandra, and everything worked out good... But it does take time


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Hi
I wud just chill,
enjoy bein single okay, treat yourself to major pamperin sessions rather than focus on
meetin someone, hell read a book!!! I tell you readin a good book can take you to lots of places in the mind
far better than real life dribble....
You got a myspace r facebook site?
get friends on there with similar tastes to yourself..

It will happen, theres someone out there just for you

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Done it all though, Sue. Facebook/Myspace don't really appeal - too big, too many people. It's why I come here  


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arree I hope you meet that special someone one day!
you take care me
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Hey omj, nearly a year since you shared this with us.... did anything ever happen, or it is still as it was??


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Hi OMJ.  Hope things are going well.  


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Its does make you think about the passage, and to where people are now...


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Yes, there were some lovely people on here who have faded away.... a real shame...  


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